Holding Out For The Finish Line

holding out for the finish line

Holding out for the finish line

How often have you given up, instead of holding out for the finish line?

This is a question I have been asking myself recently. This could be a theme that runs on a ‘replay loop’ through times of my life.

I am currently working through a business mentoring program with a group of like-minded small business owners. We are just over half way through our programme and I find it hard to quantify all I have learnt or refined in this short while.

What I have learnt:

  • I am not alone in my quest to serve the Greater Good, and in so doing, become the best version of myself that I aspire to be
  • There are others who also struggle with the truth that what each has to offer is incredibly valuable
  • What is required of me is to focus on my vision and then consistently apply small daily actions that will result in rewarding outcomes
  • When I have support and encouragement from those I am working with, and from those whom I serve, the quality of my work improves
  • My best work unfolds when I hold myself accountable to the Highest Version of myself
  • Losing focus, losing faith in myself and the process, prevents me from holding out for the finish line.

When I reflect on the Journey that has brought me to here and now, I recognise many instances where I felt so discouraged with an apparent lack of progress, or a twist in the road that deflected me off the path I was on. Did I lose interest because nothing seemed to be happening – or what I wanted to happen didn’t? Or did I lose sight of the finish line because the journey seemed too long and arduous?

What if those instances were, in fact, just short training periods to prepare me for the big event? Imagine if all those experiences were just the most perfect preparation for what is now working out in my world?

The most wonderful example happened to me yesterday.

I turned up for my monthly 5km timed Parkrun because I had made a commitment to myself that I would hold myself accountable to keep up my morning runs. The Parkrun ensures that I keep on track with time and distance when I run during the week. I felt flat and tired after a busy week – but I was committed! From the first few steps I knew that my legs were running on Angel Power. It was effortless. I was stunned and amazed.

Do you know what feels like to be carried on Angels’ wings, to be fully supported?

I ran my personal best time, which stunned me.

I ask myself now: what will it take to feel this way more often; to consistently tap into the grace of the Universe, to show up and expect to do my best.  This way, holding out for the finish line becomes exciting and enjoyable.

What does holding out for the finish line evoke for you?

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Time to Grieve

Is taking time to grieve selfish? Is it a form of self-pity?

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Taking time to grieve

I recently visited an elderly woman in her home, in my community therapy role. So much had been happening in her world. During the weeks since my last visit she had experienced some serious health challenges, and her brother had died.

How could I be surprised that she had not managed to continue with the exercise and walking program we had started?

She was tired, heartbroken and wracked with guilt. She described herself as “full of self-pity” because she was mourning the loss of her dear brother. This had also reminded her of the grief she experienced when her sister died a year previously.

I sat and listened with my Whole Heart.

I was not there to offer solutions, to slap a band-aid over her aching heart, to make light of her feelings. I told her I believed it was good, right and proper to feel such acute loss and to express it. How else do we recover from our deep wounds?

She told me about her family, her ancestors who had migrated to New Zealand from an Eastern European country, just before the time of the Depression. She spoke of a grandfather who worked many menial jobs to provide for his family of seven children. Her parents also worked hard to raise her and her many siblings – a labour of love which she reflected on with great gratitude. She spoke of one of her sisters who had endured many trials and tribulations only to finally triumph – and she now lives overseas. She spoke with love of her own children – their successes and challenges.

In the telling, she called all of her Ancestors into that small lounge. I could feel them standing around her. I told her that I believed that talking about our Loved ones brings them close.

I can recognise the entrenched belief that being occupied fully, being accountable for every minute spent at the expense of any form of pure relaxation, has been ingrained in our psyches. No wonder, then, that this dear soul believed she was “full of self-pity” because her thoughts kept turning to those she loved dearly who were no longer here, in physical form. Because she could not do it for herself, I offered her the gift of my time, so that she could express what her heart was longing to share.

When it was time for me to leave, she hugged me tightly and thanked me for “just listening”. I feel I was the recipient of the greater gift. I heard her heart sing!

Do you feel taking time to grieve is selfish? Do you believe it is a form of self-pity?

I welcome your comments.

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Imperfect Action Solves Procrastination and Overwhelm

Imperfect Action Solves Procrastination and Overwhelm

Imperfect Action Solves Procrastination and Overwhelm

Today’s Blog Challenge to take imperfect action solves the wretched curse of procrastination and overwhelm.

This is particularly pertinent for me today as I grapple with the multitudinous after-effects of the very large earthquake we experienced in Christchurch, New Zealand, last night. I feel tired from lack of sleep, and can’t seem to concentrate for very long to focus my attention on any task requiring my full attention. My usual morning routine was superseded by the very urgent need to evacuate my home due to a tsunami threat. I know that I am not experiencing this alone – my whole city has been shaken!

These are circumstances brought about by great forces of nature, not by my lack of attention to detail nor lack of focus on my business plans! Yet, I recognise my friends Procrastination and Overwhelm, as I have become familiar with these qualities in myself.

Procrastination, because I put off doing what I know is necessary – often because I feel Overwhelm-ed by the task, or unsure of where to begin. So, here I am, making a beginning on this blog post, and loving the sense of normalcy it offers me. Loving the comfort of writing, an activity that I love. Feeling so grateful to capture thoughts and words in action. Even though parts of me feel scattered, and I wonder how many people could possibly read my post, this Imperfect Action brings me one step closer to reaching my Freedom Plan.

I am going to commit to writing for at least 25 minutes every morning after I wake, whether it is for a blog post, a reflective statement, freehand in my journal or a letter to a friend. This Imperfect Action taken daily will solve my procrastination and overwhelm, word by word, action by action!

Have you been shaken to your core recently? Please let me know how things are in your world today!

 

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The Wounded Healer

 

Challenges and Blessings and time to make some changes

Challenges and Blessings – time to make some changes

 

Yes, I know – it’s been a while since I wrote. Life has brought me challenges and many Blessings too. Rewind to the end of January when I was un-partnered and suddenly single. The Wounded Healer now has the perfect opportunity to take stock of her life, to make some long overdue changes.

The first life changing event was the decision to downsize and to move into a home that better suited my needs. A fresh start with no stagnant energy lingering in any corners. I had previously strongly resisted this idea, as I felt so attached to all my efforts that had created the tranquil space and beautiful garden. This time it was so different. I felt ready to find a space that was uniquely ‘me’, and would provide the perfect space for my Acupuncture Treatment Room / Sanctuary.

That decision turned out to be the easiest first step – the selling part took much longer. My determination to follow through was tested time and again. Months of weekly Open Homes followed and at times I felt so despondent that I was ready to quit. Somehow, I knew deep down that my new Home was waiting, and that I was to trust that all was indeed well.

And so it was. At the end of June my house finally sold, and on a most auspicious day in July I was declared the owner of my new home. It is perfect for me. Smaller yet spacious, with an established garden and a Sanctuary for my work. My happiness knows no bounds!

Then life became even more interesting. Three weeks after moving in, I fell while out running along the beach track. I remember walking home pleading with the Universe that nothing was broken! I had shattered my left shoulder joint, which required a bone graft, pinning and plating. Hmm. I did NOT see that coming.

In the weeks since then I have had time to reflect on so many areas of my life. Isn’t it amazing how such an event can bring us to reflect on what is meaningful, what serves us, and where we wish to focus our energy?

I feel a deep joy sitting here writing at my computer. It has been too long. I have much to share, and I realise that sharing is one of my passions. I am going to follow my passion more often. I hope you will join me.

How will you share your passion with your world? I would love you to share with me!

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Changes – How Do We Deal With Them?

Dealing With Change Gracefully

Dealing With Change Gracefully

 

How does one navigate life changes gracefully?

I have come to ask myself this question after a particularly challenging 12 months. I had always assumed that my life would tick along quite nicely once I reached my fifties, and I am constantly amazed at how many challenges I continue to face.

Of course, we could be truly optimistic, and call these challenges ‘opportunities’ – opportunities for growth, for learning new things, for overcoming adversity. Forward movement also proves to us that we are alive, that we are capable of thought and action.

Life changes affect us in different ways. At the time, it may seem that we would never recover from the enormity of the event, our thoughts and feelings about what has transpired and how we were affected. With some time and space to reflect, there is always something lost, something gained.

When I left my previous job after 7 ½ years I could not imagine life outside of the confines of that institution. While I missed my close friends there, I soon came to value the diverse and broad thinking business community that makes up ‘the rest of the workers’. I ‘lost’ the security of a permanent position in a dead end job, yet gained the freedom to express myself and be valued for my work and aspirations.

My close relationships have not escaped the change cycles either. Perhaps we are more prepared for ages and stages related changes, yet sometimes those come sooner than expected. Dementia can rob us of years of communication with a close family member – it starts slowly yet transforms your loved one before your eyes. Younger family members may move in their own orbits, and over time those relationships also have the capacity to slide into nothingness if we don’t nurture and value them. People I thought would be with me forever are slipping away, consciously or unconsciously. Do you ever truly ‘lose’ those connections with Dear Ones?

People change. When large life events happen, we respond in our own unique ways. Sometimes this requires that we change perspective, we gain insight, we transform from the inside out. It is no surprise, then, that we may no longer ‘fit’ in our Love Relationships. That also happened to me. My partner and I separated. I ‘lost’ my best friend, my confidante, my lover. In turn, I ‘found’ my Inner Voice. I reconnected to my deepest beliefs and called on my inner reserves. I found that I really like Me.

Which brings me back to my original question – How does one navigate life changes  gracefully – especially when you feel lost, insecure, alone, sad or downright angry?

I realised that I needed to ask for help, something that was so difficult for me to acknowledge. I called on trusted friends for inspiration and guidance. I worked to maintain great physical health. And I worked with a coach to change my mind-set. I am still navigating monumental changes. I am also learning to dance gracefully through all the areas of my life. It is a work in progress, full of changes, and now it feels more expectantly pleasing than daunting.

Do you recognise similar themes happening in your experience?

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Out Of The Box using Creative Thinking

Creative Thinking moves us out of the box we have become stuck in.

Move Out of the Box using Creative Thinking

Would you like to step Out of the Box you feel confined in?

I meet once a month, via a conference call, with a group of like-minded friends for The Creative Field Project which is:

  • A global network of people committed to the evolution of consciousness.
  • A field of collective awareness of the transforming, healing spirit of Love which is inherent to all people.
  • A context for engaging with other people in our individual awakening, learning and service.

The program is available to anyone, anywhere in the world, regardless of nationality, language, religion or culture. Small groups of about seven people meet monthly to assist with personal and collective breakthroughs that lead to new awareness and a new basis for service in the world. Groups meet in person, via phone or Skype.

At the end of November 2010 I was invited to participate in one such group. I accepted.

It changed my life!

Each month we are sent some material to consider before we meet. Each group has a Facilitator who hosts the meeting, and we are invited to follow a process to reflect on various aspects of the material and our individual responses.

Recently, a new approach was set in motion – we were invited to choose an area or dynamic in our lives where we wanted to effect changes, or shine some light on. We were to be spending four months working on a process which first identified the area/dynamic, then highlighted some creative action points to implement. This process has built in impetus, as once targeted, an action can be fine- tuned while being practiced.

There is great power in being held in a non-judgemental space while naming your fears and so-called failings. Each person in the group is witness to your challenges and shares joyfully in your triumphs. The collective energy grows stronger over time, and my fellow participants have become my chosen family, part of my chosen ‘tribe’.

For the third meeting in this particular cycle we were invited to view the dynamic that we had chosen to work with as if we were living in a closed box, with a limited pattern of thinking and feeling, relative to the circumstances of our life.

In order to transcend feeling stuck or limited, we were invited to think of the two most masterful people we knew (living or not) at a mental and emotional level, who could bring their clarity and focus to the situation to get you Out of the Box. Were there any necessary steps to take to implement these ideas or strategies?

Finally, we were invited to find five different approaches to the things that had been restricted, limited or stuck – approaches out of the box, out of the current mental and emotional context in which we had been functioning. These we would be sharing with our group.

What a valuable and interesting process!

I came away with more ideas than I thought possible, because they were presented from a place outside my usual standpoint, out of my usual box. This coming month will be rich with possibilities, and I so look forward to our next call together, to share in my group’s growth, humour and positive energy.

If you are interested in finding out more about The Creative Field, or would like to join a Small Group, click on the live link.

Expect to function Out of the Box you have been confined in!

 

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