Dayle Hunt is a Life Mechanic and he aims to tune your internal Ferrari to reach peak performance. I attended his inaugural one-man show Live Love Laugh, where he combines personal stories of life lessons with humour and humility.
He maintains that we have six basic Human Needs which need to be fulfilled for us to live a meaningful life. He combined stories and anecdotes to illustrate how we go about meeting our individual needs to have certainty, variety, significance, love and connection, growth and contribution in our lives.
It seemed that one hour was way too short a time to settle in and fully engage with his three personas who occupied the stage in their turn.
Interestingly, for me I guess, my own enjoyment of the evening was marred by the disruptive presence of the young person who sat in the seat behind me. She repeatedly kicked the back of my chair violently, causing the whole row of seats to reverberate, and the man seated in front of me to cast annoyed looks in my direction. Then she explosively crushed her empty plastic cup in my ear. Then she sat with her feet dangling over the back of the empty seat next to me, and proceeded to kick that too.
I had accepted an invitation to Live Love Laugh, and I found myself then pondering whether this young person was actually displaying the effects of NOT having her basic needs met.
- Certainty. Had her parents explained that they were attending a public performance where she would be required to sit peacefully for an hour during the performance. Had they outlined the expected format of the evening and told her more or less what she could expect to happen? Were there boundaries in place, should she not behave in an acceptable manner? Are her parents consistent with their discipline? How was her need for Certainty met?
- Variety. If the young person in question was attending a live theatre event, no doubt she has attended many other social outings. School, friends’ parties, family gatherings. Perhaps she was just not enamoured with her current set of circumstances – perhaps she had wanted to be somewhere else, doing something of her own choosing.
- Significance. Her presence behind me became significant, for all the wrong reasons! I was annoyed, distracted and then heart sore – because I did not want to be frustrated by a child. Her disruptive behaviour made her significant to others that were distracted, and perhaps also to her parents who may have felt annoyed or embarrassed that they needed to ask her to desist. How did her behaviour make her feel significant?
- Love and Connection. If she had been my own child or grandchild, how could I have strengthened her feeling of being loved and connected? Perhaps I could have invited her to sit in my lap.
- Growth. Perhaps this was a first ever attendance of a live event for our young person. I am hoping there would be many other opportunities for her to have wonderful experiences – and that she will grow into a sociable and friendly young woman.
- Contribution. By just being herself, she has contributed to my learning, to my experience. It is up to me to determine the value of the contribution.
I am left pondering the evening. Dayle Hunt and Live Love Laugh will take you to many places. The familiar, the funny, the unexpected, the unexplored corners in your heart. Which brings me to ask:
How have you dealt with the disruptive seat-kicker? Please share your comments with me, so that I can keep learning!
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